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When you come to the Indian mentality of how women despite working have to take care of the laundary, well it's true. That's what men expect from their wives. The tag 'wife' makes a woman suddenly grow up from that carefree teenager/ girl to a very responsible woman who has the duty of pleasing her husband- and laundry comes first. I like the idea of women once in a while forgoing this in exchange of other activities- say like bungee jumping. I know, its laughable, but who knows what wonders it would do the relationship if the husband actually helps out with the load of those unwashed clothes.
Having a washing machine is perhaps the greatest boon to any man out there. And also a woman. I think that solves half the problem too. I do find my husband doing things for me in a small way. No he doesn't really dig in deep when it comes to laundry, but once in a while he does hang the clothes outside or wash his own when I am in a hurry to go out. It does goes a long way in making us happier than most self depreciating couples. But its not only laundry, its the battle of every household chore that needs equal sharing. And it really doesn't make you less of a man by giving your wife a hand. I remember having a simple meal of bread a omelette made by my partner because I had to go out for work. It really meant a lot than all those promises of moon and the stars. I also believe that I work equally hard at home, in keeping my child clean, happy and entertained while my husband works outside. And it's a tiring thankless job. So I really love it when I get my time while my son goes out to play in the evening with his dad. It's his share of helping me out and loving me. Sometimes saying those three words doesn't matter. It's the marriage thing that you got to work it out by breaking the rules. Create your own rules of being happy, of helping your partner.
And remember that she really didn't know anything before she got married to you. All those delicacies and the neat folded underwears in your cupboards does not mean she is your slave. It means that you mean more to her than anyone. So help her while she works and you while away your time watching cricket. It doesn't take much to make your partner happy. Its the thought and effort you show that makes a relationship truly work.
When you come to the Indian mentality of how women despite working have to take care of the laundary, well it's true. That's what men expect from their wives. The tag 'wife' makes a woman suddenly grow up from that carefree teenager/ girl to a very responsible woman who has the duty of pleasing her husband- and laundry comes first. I like the idea of women once in a while forgoing this in exchange of other activities- say like bungee jumping. I know, its laughable, but who knows what wonders it would do the relationship if the husband actually helps out with the load of those unwashed clothes.
Having a washing machine is perhaps the greatest boon to any man out there. And also a woman. I think that solves half the problem too. I do find my husband doing things for me in a small way. No he doesn't really dig in deep when it comes to laundry, but once in a while he does hang the clothes outside or wash his own when I am in a hurry to go out. It does goes a long way in making us happier than most self depreciating couples. But its not only laundry, its the battle of every household chore that needs equal sharing. And it really doesn't make you less of a man by giving your wife a hand. I remember having a simple meal of bread a omelette made by my partner because I had to go out for work. It really meant a lot than all those promises of moon and the stars. I also believe that I work equally hard at home, in keeping my child clean, happy and entertained while my husband works outside. And it's a tiring thankless job. So I really love it when I get my time while my son goes out to play in the evening with his dad. It's his share of helping me out and loving me. Sometimes saying those three words doesn't matter. It's the marriage thing that you got to work it out by breaking the rules. Create your own rules of being happy, of helping your partner.
I agree. There is nothing sexier than a man who can cook a nice three course meal and do his own laundry. But sadly Indian women even those of us who work are made to work round the clock at home. It takes away from their productivity.
ReplyDeleteYes Shivangi. Thats the case actually. Hope that men change their attitude in future smtime.
DeleteI feel so blessed, I mean in my home there is no question of me doing laundary alone! Or for that matter any other household chore!
ReplyDeleteReally? Ur indeed lucky. And i wish loads of such happiness your way
DeleteYou are extremely lucky mridula.
ReplyDeleteYou are right Sonia or perhaps Indian women should stop being so submissive and act like a real shrew. I refuse to marry a man who wants a live in maid in the disguise of a wife. I would rather be with someone who encourages me to pursue my dreams.
ReplyDeleteU knw Shivangi, men r different before they turn into husbands. U nvr knw what u get until u actually live wid d person.
DeleteYou are actually right. Their conditioning is such that they find doing household chores a tad emasculating.
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