Wednesday, February 22, 2017

Home Decor - part 1

When you move from one place to another, you kind of become an expert is making a very shabby quarters, all yours! A newly married will slowly buy things for her home while for me who have been a few years in the army, I tend to pick up thing from everywhere. Mostly from my travels and hometown. Here are a few tips that would help you set up a house and make it your home.

Zen Corner:

Make sure you have a 'ZEN' place designated in your living room or wherever you tend to sit out a lot. For me, its my living space where I sit and do my daily tasks, even writing. It simply means that you have a corner dedicated to spirituality and when you decorate that corner, you would feel an inner peace. I love gold and wood tones in my home so you would see that here. I added a buddha and a few things my mom gave me for good luck in the form of Feng Shui. I am hoping to add a money plant very soon.


Your curtains don't have to be the boring solid colours. Choose something that would let the air and light in. Limit the use of tube lights in the mornings and let bask in the nature. I love mints and teal and these are pretty transparent and this is just one side i have added to make it look special. Also a decorative item, such as the cage and tea lights make it look very warm.

Take a drink:

A corner where you can have a drink and display your precious crystals are is why you should own a bar cabinet. You get many options online these days or the best option that I tried was to get a design and get it made from a carpenter.

My Zen space

A warm corner 

My bar cabinet and handmade floor lamp

I'll add a few more pictures later. Hope you got a few tips on how to make your home ever more beautiful!

To Be Continued...

Monday, February 20, 2017

Types Of Army Wives: Yes, We have a category

Shit happens!
 And behind that shit, are some shitty people who just love to shit everywhere, be it over what messages or just in general, open their mouths. Now what i am really talking about is the culture in the army. You face new people, make great friends but sometimes you can end up intimidating a few and really thats what makes you aware that, you need to just let go of them and be in your own world. The biggest  mistake you could do as an army wife is thinking that you could befriend your senior wife. I did that and somehow I felt the biggest betrayal ever. Gossip travels faster than light here and even if you think that being quite is the only thing that's keeping you sane, it will driver your crazier. 

No Reality check: 

I see that unhappy people love, making other people unhappy. If you smile, laugh and just be yourself, they think that something is wrong with you, why aren't you cribbing about your life? What is it that making me happy? These kind of ladies will be insecure with their families as well. And tend to take out their frustrations through messages. 

The 'Bechari' Card (The poor sad girl): 

This card in army is just used so many times but its never exhausted. Messy hair, dupatta out of place,  and a sad drawn look on he face. I tend to find this kind of an army wife not common. Its not a card that you could use, unless you are an expert in being that part. These kinds don't get along with anyone, have several issues with life and actually think they are better than anyone else. 

The working woman:

An army wife is often the epitome of many talents. And despite the busy schedule of AWWA activities, demanding kids and husband, if you can work while staying and maintaining a home then you are the perfect women. Some do this with flying colours and no judgement, you women are Goddess! 
But then there are a few who make other ladies life miserable while working. They have the 'working' card that they use if they want to get away from anything. Many choose to live away from their husbands while commanding their ladies on WhatsApp, thinking that she could earn the points by showing this side of hers. These kind of women have no knowledge of how army wives work together, usually the words coming out their mouth is of their husband's and their non-participation attitude is frankly irritating. 

The Yester-year Commanding Wife:

This is the kind of army wife who had been on a good powerful position, a few years ago, who can do anything to be in power again, even if that means cozying up with the senior most lady. In return, she tends to make the junior ladies feel miserable with her demeaning attitude, also she would have a loud grating voice that would feel like she is shouting rather than talking. She is no one's favourite and tends to get on the nerves with her arrival. 

So you see, despite meeting various types of 'No-Lady' women in the army, you will survive and if you feel overwhelmed with their vindictiveness, do not sit back and listen, your parents didn't raise you to be a punching bag. Be proud of who you are and most of all be nice!

Note: This is not Hate post, but only a few observations that needed to be written. 

Sunday, January 31, 2016

Why Taking My Toddler To the Mall was the biggest mistake of my life?

Excuse the long title but I couldn’t shorten it anyway. The impact of a bad day is getting to me and when all I could think about during the sale season was to shop in peace, I forgot that I had my son along. Kids these days, I am going to rant now, are not the usual ones. They want to be entertained, to be cuddled and to buy as much as you want. My son has seen us shopping and he thinks he can pick up three to four toys together, like I buy dresses in a mall. Not only does this turn into an ugly cry-affair where I try to convice him that this is not a great choice for him or for his age, he just throws a tantrum. There are tears, people stare like I am really bad mother, He doesn’t let go of that big box of hot wheels and want more like a greedy tiny person. Inside I am in tears, I am wailing and believe me, I just want to go home without taking a thing home. But I really live far from the city and I gotta to buckle up and be brave.

I thought the icecream would quiten him but he giving those sad teary looks because I just don’t buy him anything. He is unhappy but takes the icecream, sulky but eats it all while I go to one shop and decide to pick up whatever I like first and just get the hell out of there. He keeps wailing in between- “I want a car, Hot Wheels big Box’ which means I need to shell out more money this month and since I already spent more than I should have for the month, I just don’t give in. I tell him that he needs to buy a smaller one or else no more toys.

Lucky for me the play park at the Mall is huge and has sand and jungle gym with kids like him are tearing in, oh I mean Playing. Parents are sitting and watching them in distance. They all looked dissastisfied with their shopping plan gone haywired like mine. But my son was happy then, not once did he ask for the toy. The moment it was time to go home, he remembered the toy he had to buy. He cries again and people look. I stare them back. I am getting hyperventialed because I just want to go home now. I somehow put him in the car and decide silently that shopping with him, never ever in life!

What I feel is that kids really do not need a Mall to be happy. The outing in the Mall is just a very wrong concept. Somewhere I read why they behaved in this way because they are put in an unnatural environment, not ready to sit and just wait. Patience is the thing for adults and not for toddlers.  A lesson well learnt but a painful day that I wont be able to forget for sometime.

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5 Books Every Toddler should Be Read to

I have always been in search for some books for my son and after trying several books, I have found these to be the best.  Although I could explore more since he almost four but I am pretty comfortable having these on his shelf right now. Some books come with CDs and you can play it with the pretty background music and dialogues that would be great once in a while. And if music is for the ears then words and pictures are for the eyes. 
Now if you want your toddler to develop the habit of holding a book to read and build a few new words every now and then then be sure to pick up these books with interesting theme and story line.

Shark In The Park by NICK SHARRATT: Children love aqcuatic fishes and the scarier they are, the more interesting they become. This is one such book where you will find a little boy who has just got a telescope for a present, exploring the park for a shark. So many times he think he found it but no such luck. The suspence in the end is good and gets a laugh out of my son every time. Add it to your collection for sure!

Peppa Pig: The series of Peppa Pig and the family are always on an adventure. They have something of the other going on in the family. They play in the snow or meet the Santa Claus, They have guests over and its so much fun to follow whats happening in their lives. I like all the books. Choose the themes that your child would be most interested in.

Green Eggs And Ham by Dr Seuss : Now this one I first heart it on Youtube and found it so refreshingly different.  Words like ‘Could Not, ‘Would not’, “Would you”, “Could you” and several other new words that you could teach your kids in a fun way. The grumpy cat doesn’t want to taste the green eggs and ham and keeps refusing. Does he actually have a taste in the end? How to teach your kids to try different things in life would actually put a smile on your face.

The Hungry Catepillar by ERIC CARLE: The little catepillar id really hungry and trying to find something to eat. Does he find something at last? And what happened in the end? He does eat a bunch of things that you could explain to your child and its great to know what hunger is.

Where’s Spot by ERIC HILL:  Sallly, the dog trying to find Spot. Who is spot? Why is she trying to find Spot? And words like UNDER, IN, ON, INSIDE, UP, all are very good to add in the vocabulary. You also come to know of different animals and learn their names.

The best time to read to your child is when he really interested in the books. It would be great if he picks the one he is interested in. Let me know if your kid reads any other books and I hope to check then out since more books are always welcome.

This blog post is inspired by the blogging marathon hosted on IndiBlogger for the launch of the #Fantastico Zica from Tata Motors. You can apply for a test drive of the hatchback Zica today.

Marriage and why it doesn’t work out

Its really not something that you could put a tag on and say that this is suppoed to work. “You are married and now deal with it”. If only that was the truth. We live in a society where tolearnce and patience has gone under the bridges. We cannot just wait for things to get better, waiting for him to smile, waiting for him to say ‘I Love You’, waiting for him to turn over for sex, waiting for him to hug you just for the heck of it. The woman who used to do this could be dead now or really really old. In short, we respect our husbands but we want more too from a relationship and that can only happen if you communicate. And if communication works in a way that sounds like an accusation then turning to another guy could be the biggest mistake of your life. Because you have to think about the conseuqnces not through those rainbow glasses.

Why does a man think he forgets about the woman he loved once so much? There is no psychological conclusions to it. An unhappy man who is not doing great at his job could be the reason or a very successful man with no purpose could be another. A woman who has give up her body or herself to her career than taking care to woo her husband is another reason. Her disstisfaction becomes suffocating until the couple breathe their last breath. The impact of  a loveless marriage reflects on your kids as well. Then you think about what the society will think- which is really a sad senario because people are more curious than concerened.

Admit it,  you have thought about another man, another woman, despite being married and that doesn’t really mean you are doomed in a marriage. You just need a breather. And that’s why we come to the legal term called Seperation and Divorce. It’s not a shameful thing nor are you doing injustice to your family. Once in a while its alright to give up and move on and that is the first step. And doing it the clean way will help your kids to adjust to the new life that you will head on from now on wards. Of course I see men moving out but I feel a woman need to move out from the place that holds memories and have a smaller place where you needent spend hours cleaning up.

Its not something you can stop it, if there is more compromise than love then its time to let go because you have years to live and you deserve to be happy. Even if that means letting go of that one person who had been partner all those years. But was never present.

This blog post is inspired by the blogging marathon hosted on IndiBlogger for the launch of the #Fantastico Zica from Tata Motors. You can apply for a test drive of the hatchback Zica today.

Saturday, January 30, 2016

5 peppy and fun sitcoms to see now!

If you want to know, I do not have a social life when I am away from my husband. I enjoy being a loner, stick to my writing and actually not meet unless they make an effort. Which I know, no one does these days. But to have some fun and peppy sitcoms to watch at home can actually unwind you. So here is the list of sitcoms you should watch.

Impastor: You have this conman in a small town where he finds people who believes in him to be this God man that he really isn't and thats the fun part. Unintentionally he helps people with his weird quotes from the Bible that is really made up in his mind.

Mike And Molly: Mellisa McCarthy is obviously a hit among all. And this sitcom about her relationship with her husband's mother and her family is really so funny that you actually get her. She does look kind of fantastic even with a little weight. The guy who's the husband does a pretty great job with comedy and this is going to be my all time favourite.

Dr Ken: Remember the guy from Hangover movies series? well, you can find him here with an adorable family and guess what, he is a doctor from Korea only very American! I love this guy because his quips are just amazing! His quirky family is another feather in the hat which I must say- makes me laugh a lot.

Fresh Off The Boat: This Chinese family is going to make you happy and how? well they just have the most adorable parents. The mother wants to be very-Chinese and follow the traditions while the father is more chill, caring and wanting his wife to keep off his territory so that she could find another hobby than pin pointing mistakes of his employees. Their sons also have an amazing part. More like Wonder Years, reminded me a lot of the soap but still it has a good story.

Best Time with Neil Patrick Harris: Now if you miss your Barney then here he is with some really interesting...wait for it...Legen-dary quips on his show. He invites random people for stories, really heartfelt and gives them amazing prizes and gifts. He also invites a celebrity to host for one show and its great with some music adding to it.

These are a few shows I follow and I love it for show good it makes me feel. Anyway sitcoms should be fun and not very difficult to deal with. And I think there is nothing wrong in watching tv
I do watch thriller once in a while but then I can make another list for that. Do let me know if you watched any of these. Perhaps we could share notes.

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5 Horror Movies You Have to See!

There are some movies that you will love and some you just cannot seem to forget, especially when you watch it all alone. The impact of these movies linger and not in a good way. But you did score if you watched it and didn't scream once. Or have other techniques like lowering the volume and patting yourself in the back for bearing it. In fact I get a high watching the spooky movies, each and every nerve in my body alive, waiting for the inevitable but that never comes, does it. You are always leading towards the unheard, unseen.

Exorcism Of Emily Rose: This is one movie that has a lot of mixed views. One believes that there is God and then there is evil. Emily Rose was actually a woman who had seven kinds of evil inside her. She even spoke ancient evil languages which scared the hell out of everyone. The movie is going to same to you.

The Conjuring: Again based on a true story, The Conjuring is about a large family living in a haunted house which has a history of mothers killing their offsprings. The history based on the owner long ago loved her property so much couldn't bear to see others living on it. Now I did go through it and the woman now living in the house says that its all fiction and she doesn't feel any presence. How true that is, you just have to see the movie to believe.

Jezebel: What happens when you find videos made by your dead mother, tarot reading your future? Its just going to scare the hell out of you! A lonely woman who has nowhere to go but to a father who hated her mother are both going to find some secrets that you could never guess. Full marks for keeping the suspense on.

The Insidious 2: The first chapter was interesting and you get to see a family that has the devil capturing your soul and its good. But what I loved about the second part as the woman who keeps following the man. The history is interesting and the ore I read about crazy mothers, the more interesting it gets.

Shutter: When you are a newly married woman and in a new city, you do not expect things to be weird. But it is. And she finds a woman who keeps following them wherever they are. Then she finds the camera in her husband's box and sees horrifying truth which makes her leave her husband. What is it? Two of his partners are dead and murdered with unexplainable evidences.

I have made a small list of movies I loved and can watch again. But the first time you watch it will be the best experience of your life.

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