U KNOW U R IN LOVE WID A SOLDIER WHEN.....♥♥

~You don't mind a phone call waking you up at 4 a.m.



~You tell people that ask that he's 'only' been gone a month.



~The smallest contact (short sms) from your man makes your entire week!


~You cry over an msg that says nothing more than hi and I miss U


~Those recruitment commercials on TV make you cry because you are so proud!



~You get super excited just knowing that your Soldier tried to call but wasn't able to get through.



~Your first Military Ball you go to as your Soldier's girlfriend, your name tag says"Mrs".



Is that a self fulfilling prophecy or what?!?



~A 30 second phone call after no calls from him for 2.5 months leaves you full of joy and happiness, and "No 


news is good news" becomes your motto.


~The motto "no shore too distant" becomes your life.



~You feel yourself growning more and more in love with your man even while he's so far away.



~You hold off on seeing certain moviEs so u can see them with your Soldier when he comes home.



~You want to roll your eyes when you hear someone say,"I havent seen my boyfriend in a week!"



~You can go from being happy,to sad, to lonely, to angry, to proud, and back to happy in amatter of less 


than an hour, and you sleep with the phone right next to you, just in case.


~If he's deployed you don't care how your hair looks nor care about wearing make-up, and thepeople at your 


work ask about your boyfriend every day to see if you've heard from him.


~The sight of any other man in a uniform makes you miss your boyfriend MORE than it makes you drool, and 


you try to explain to civilians what your boyfriend does for a living, they give you a blank look because they 


don't understand a third of what you just said......!!!!


Miss you my soldier :(

source: Internet

God and his mike

I have got the taste of both- the north and the south. My relationship with God has been different though. And its all thanks to the mike that the supposed devotees use whenever they want to talk to Him. 

North- They have 'Jagratas' usually starting just when we have just slipped into the bed, done with our daily soaps and also done with the day conversations. The dream fairy had just sprinkled sleep dust on us when comes that blaring sound of dhols and a man on mike, his mission to make God his business for the night. 

South- I know there is no fixed time to remember Him but in the morning, really? Just when I am done with having head banged with dhols, I get the bells of a temple near by getting louder by each second and my sleep is done by the day too.

I don't know why I am so sensitive to sounds when some don't notice them too much. But I don't understand devotees relationship with God and the mike. If He has the loud speakers attached to his seat, I don't know how he gets his sleep.   

The retirement plan

I am probably going to be an army wife for a very (very) long time now and no hard feelings about it. Its like adjusting in a family and making your own decisions- making a home out of a shattered house. We keep moving and shifting things from one place to another. Maybe that's why we can become good interior decorators, Vaastu Shaatra experts, event managers and hosts. Also the jobs that any 'sakku bai' can do can becomes our forte too. Why do I feel like I am repeating my options of job hunting for my future life? And I am worrying about the future unnecessarily. There is a reason for it. The place where I grew up was where all the army officers settled after retiring and it worries me. One in particular worried me so much that I am still sweating.

My neighbour (a former colonel's wife) is now retired from her glam army life and making a life on her own with her son away for months being in Merchant Navy. She's lost her husband in harness during his service and got the flat that they had applied, an army widow getting the privilege and priority. Army has a habit to fuss over the ladies and it becomes like a bad habit later on since husband's manage to give very little time to their better halves. And this becomes like another bad habit. Life looks normal with the husband out 24/7. So she looks like the type who must have dedicated her life around her son. She also looks like a schizophrenic, preferring her own company than others. I see her peeping through her door before getting out. The innumerable number of plants around the balcony that have over grown because of excessive manure, the dark rooms where she lurks around in front of her TV, her four O' clock routines in the morning and her constant bickering about the people around. The garage is filled with the empty trunks that makes no sense in her life since she would never move now but she is reluctant to let them go because it had been a vital part of her prime years. So there is no one to address you as 'Mrs...' and no children to wish you 'goodmorning aunty' on your way, does that mean you become unsocial and unfriendly? From the world outside I see her wallowing away in her old memories. Is civil life so difficult to follow?

Is that how all lonely widows live? or perhaps is this the new trend of how to just pass life of being a woman on her own? Which is all fine. But making others life miserable too because you just cannot see anyone happy or being normal. It's a sad state of affairs. And most of the times when you see such examples of army wives I get determined not to while away my time being just that. 

I can still see myself down the years becoming a better person than I am today and making choices that will make me happy first than my family. 

SHE'S A JOLLY GOOD FELLOW- A Book Review

Synopsis: Second Lieutenants Deepa Shekhar and Anjali Sharma have an important task at hand: convince their male counterparts that they too are assets to the Indian Army – rather than merely those with assets.

My Take:

https://webookreviews.wordpress.com/2015/10/06/on-book-review-shes-a-jolly-good-fellow-by-sajita-nair/

Rating: 4/5